My Take: Unconditional Love
Although I will belt out Unconditionally, I sometimes still have to stifle a slight giggle when I hear couples profess their unconditional love for each other. Unconditional human love --does not exist! Unconditional love implies that you will love without reason, whether it is reciprocated or not, without bounds or limits, regardless of right or wrong that, that person may cause. It is unbreakable love that under no circumstances will pause , halt nor cease to exist. Human beings are simply not capable of this type of love.
A couple years ago I came across a Philosophy text which had some readings about the different types of love, according to the Ancient Greeks, and I will draw on my memories to help explain my title a little better. Agape, also referred to as unconditional love, is the highest form of love and is never dependent on any returned emotions or gifts.This type of selfless giving is not a natural human characteristic. Hobbes (1588), helped to formulate the idea that humans are naturally selfish, and would do things only that will be for the betterment of their position. Humans were not made with the ability of loving without anything in return, whatever that return may be. Loving our parents because they take care of us is not unconditional love, nor is loving our partner because they treat us well. Not many persons would remain in a relationship where their own psychological needs are not met, and rightfully so. For me, that’s a waste of time. Agape love is mentioned biblically, and in my opinion, that’s the only place it exists.
There are other types of love that we are capable of, my take is that unconditional love is not one.
Eros- love of fiery, sexual passion shared with someone else
Ludus- love shared between children or during playful moments
Philia- friendship; the love and loyalty we share for our friends
Pragma- long lasting love, shared between couples who have been together for a long time
Philautia- love for self
We are still capable of so much.